Many people believe that men generally want more sex than they can get.

Most women, especially those in relationships, are confident that they can have as much sex as they want.

Can you possibly say that about most men?

Who does that make the dominant?

Who has the power?

The male body lends itself somewhat more readily to submission.

The male sexual organ is a more easily recognised indicator of his arousal; granting the female the knowledge of her power over him.

The signs of her need and desire are less evident. If he doesn't know she wants or desires sex, he cannot threaten to deny it in return for submission.

His erection grants permission to continue the treatment or discipline and necessitates less double checking. Requires less use of safe words.

The penis lends itself more readily to the use of chastity devices and implements that punish and prevent arousal. It is much easier to restrain a male by his sexual organ, to tie his penis to something, than it is to tie a female by her organs.

How easy it is for a woman to declare male lust an offence and catch him in the act of arousal.

Our culture has a phrase for the woman who arouses and denies, Prick Teaser; I can think of no similar phrase for a man.

How ridiculous a dominant male would look if his penis was floppy. He could hardly pretend that dominating her excited him if he didn't get an erection.

It is somewhat more difficult for the aroused male to indulge in the very powerful dominant act of urinating on a slave. How difficult it can be for the male to urinate when he is intensely aroused. Whereas a woman does not show her arousal, or lack of it, to her victim when she squats over him.

I find it difficult to imagine a female slave kneeling by the bedside and panting desperately in her need for sex while watching her man masturbate.

Yet how many men could say that kneeling beside a woman's bed whilst she masturbated would not turn them on.

It is difficult to imagine many women reaching the fever pitch of sexual arousal simply because her Master has kept her head in his lap.

I find it much simpler to imagine a male slave erect and excited because his Mistress has put his head under her skirt to tease and deny him.

A well behaved female slave gives virtually no excuse to punish or spank.

Whereas, no matter how well behaved the male, a forbidden erection can usually be provoked simply by her presence in erotic attire.

In our culture men actively seek aroused women, so making female arousal an offence goes against the grain, while being difficult to police.

One could of course reverse the concept with a female slave; and punish for lack of arousal.

But again the female has the advantage in that it is somewhat easier for her to fake it.

In recent times our culture has sought the female orgasm, it is difficult for me to imagine many dominant men denying themselves the pleasure of watching her come.

In common usage there are words and phrases that express a disrespect for male masturbation. Toss yourself off, wanking, jerking off.

One can imagine a female dominant ordering contemptuously:

"Toss yourself off"

But one of the few phrases that instantly comes to mind for female masturbation is playing with yourself; which is somewhat less derogatory when applied to either sex.

Our language makes it plain that male sexuality is less beautiful than female sexuality and therefore suggests Female Superiority.

Even our words for male ejaculation show a less respectful attitude.

Whereas both sexes orgasm or come, we have words like shoot and spurt for men. Female dominants can order a male to get rid of it, or use a phrase like filthy mess to describe his ejaculate or lubrication; whereas a male dominant might say:

"Get yourself wet and excited for me".

Most western societies have escort services to provide men with attractive women who simulate interest in them for sex. For example Kinky roleplaying services in London can be found at London Roleplay escorts reviews.

Whereas the popularity of male escort services is nowhere near as prevalent, and from what I understand are often less based upon sexual needs.

In our culture we even provide women with alternatives to the penis in dildos and vibrators; how much more acceptable in the bedroom they are than fake pussies.

Many conventional loving couples use dildos and vibrators, and the female is hardly ever made to feel silly using them. I cannot imagine many women getting turned on by a man using a plastic pussy.

The amount of powerful sex acts and sexual statements dildoes allow the woman are almost countless. She can scorn him in favour of a dildo; I find it difficult to conjure an image of the male dominant scorning his slave in favour of a plastic vagina.

It would surely be likely to provoke the female slave into a fit of the giggles. Which would suggest that even a female submissive would acknowledge that she has what men want.

I cannot imagine many men scorned in favour of a dildo giggling, rather they feel a sense of humiliation.

Our culture and upbringing does not allow us to believe that a man would scorn a woman in favour of a piece of plastic, but it is credible that a woman might.

Is it only men that believe this?

A woman can strap on a dildo and threaten to fuck him with it.

She can humiliate him when he takes pleasure, in the ass!

It would be difficult to imagine a man threatening a woman with a plastic pussy.

Then there is female attire. How sexy it is to be ordered to:

"Kiss the hem of my skirt".

How silly it would sound:

"Kiss the turn ups on my trousers."

It is socially acceptable for a man to kiss a woman's hand, but apart from royalty how many men would expect such a kiss from a woman.

Doesn't this suggest something powerful and to be respected about women, akin to royalty?

A woman's feet are often attired in stiletto heeled shoes, and it is an erotic act to be ordered to:

"Kiss my feet".

I doubt many women would find it erotic to kiss the standard male footwear. Similarly when a woman uses a man as a footrest it is a highly erotic sight.

How many women find the glimpse of a male ankle beneath his trousers erotic; yet throughout history, whatever the length of a woman's skirts, a glimpse beneath has been erotic.

A woman simply crosses her legs and the male is teased by the chance of a glimpse.

I cannot imagine many women getting hot when a man crosses his legs, or leaves his fly open!

All in all it seems, women are meant to rule, and men meant to worship.

So, Mistresses rule ok!

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